Parent & Educator Resources
There are so many GREAT resources nowadays! I keep updating this list to equip and help you. If you don't find what you need here, please reach out. I have so many resources I love to share.
PREVENTION:
"Diapers to Dating, Raising Sexually Healthy Children" Dr. Debra Haffner
"The Right Touch, A Read-Aloud Story to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse" Sandy Kleven (put this in the school library)
"I Said NO!" A kid-to-kid guide to keeping private parts private. Zack & Kimberly King
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures. Excellent books to read with children in preparation for WHEN they will see 'bad pictures'. I recommend both the junior and second edition.
PARENTING RESOURCES:
Parents Program by Culture Reframed, take this self-paced free online course to learn how to fight for your kids in this toxic pornified culture. They have one for tweens & teens.
App Review by Protect Young Eyes. Before you let your kids get a new app on their phone, read these reviews by a Dad and tech guru.
Brain Defense Digital Safety Course for kids 7 - 11 by Defend Young Minds
Understanding Routers. Learn how to put parent control on your router!
5 Habits of a Tech Ready Home by Protect Young Eyes
Great articles and resources on the brain science behind porn, among other topics: Fight the New Drug
Let kids be kids longer. Join the resistance movement: WAIT UNTIL 8TH. No smart phones until at least grade 8 but most experts say 16! Start with a flip phone! We are doing the 18@18 Challenge! If our daughter doesn't put social media on her phone until 18, we will give her $1,800 on her 18th Bday! So far so good! She's 17 and a very cool, confident, active teen! She has IG on my phone so she can check it when she wants. She often forgets about it! She does not have SnapChat and she has lots of great friends! It can be done parents!!
I'm not here to tell adults what to do with their own screen time in their home. But, many have asked what our rules are so here you go. Adapt, copy, and adjust as you see fit!
CLICK HERE for our house screen rules.
How to set up parent controls on every digital device, by Protect Young Eyes.
Social Media and Mobile Phone Contract by Culture Reframed.
Is My Child Ready for a Smartphone? 4 minute read by Wired Human
Book The Glass Between Us. Review on Amazon "Families will remember the day they got this book as a turning point and the start of a new sense of safety through responsible use of technology."
I recommend ALL the books & interviews with Dr. Leonard Sax (pic below). This medical doctor and psychiatrist has been tracking social changes in boys and girls for the past 30 years! His insight and research findings are a MUST READ for all parents and educators! I had to own all four books immediately, and I'm highlighting like a mad woman! It changed my parenting style right away, especially for my son. Please buy these, gift them to new parents, every educator must read these before they go in the classroom (especially the gender one, it's not about what you think!)
Boys Adrift The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men
Girls on the Edge The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls
Why Gender Matters What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences
The Collapse of Parenting How We Hurt Our Children When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups
https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ good resource for parents and educators. Gives good reviews of games, books, movies, etc.
https://www.pluggedin.com/ faith based reviews of modern media, music, video games, books, etc.
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, Jonathan Haidt.
Dr. Haidt's Under 5 Screen Recommendations:
- Under 18 months limit screen use to video chatting along with an adult (ie. with a parent/grandparent who is out of town
- 18 - 24 mo, limit screen time to watching educational porgramming with a caregiver
- 2 - 5 yrs, limit noneducational screen time to 1 hr/weekday and 3 hrs/weekend day (I personally find this too high!)
- Screens off at meals and outings
- Use parent controls
- Avoid using screens as pacifiers, babysitters or to stop tantrums.
- Turn off screens 1 hour before bedtime
- (from me) never in bedrooms or private places, no ear plugs
DOCUMENTARIES:
MAGIC LANTERN PICTURES: has made a couple of hard to watch but essential to watch documentaries, I'd recommend. Raised on Porn and what the porn culture is creating in their next documentary Liberated, The New Sexual Revolution. These are upsetting to watch but helpful to know this is what we are fighting against. Not for kids!
BRAIN, HEART, WORLD by Fight the New Drug. Very well done, 3 part documentaries following the journey of people struggling with porn.
Colin Kartchner, TED Talk
PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:
Save the Kids - Understanding screen related challenges.
Gail Dines (this is the global expert! Any of her interviews are highly informative. Especially after watching Liberated by Magic Lanterns listen to this commentary of the film and hook up culture)
The US Surgeon General's Dire Social Media Warning
Scrolling to Death - Educational interviews on screen related harms
Consider Before Consuming - Educational interviews on the harms of porn.
The Place We Find Ourselves- Powerful information on healing and trauma.
Hey right now, it often feels like these are our kids in the middle by themselves! :( If you could decrease your child's screen time there would be more kids in the middle, playing, laughing, learning people and social skills, getting healthy and active, decreasing addictive behaviour, allowing their brains and bodies to grow and develop! Let's fight together to raise FUN ACTIVE PASSIONATE kids that will become healthy and engaged adults and parents!
HELP QUITTING PORN / HELPING KIDS WHO HAVE BEEN EXPOSED:
The Sex Talk You Never Got Sam Jolman (good healing book for parents, especially Dads)
UNWANTED, How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, Jay Stringer
THIS BOOK IS REVOLUTIONARY!!!!
Seriously, there isn't one like this! Go listen to every podcast you can find with Dr. Jay Stringer and get this book. This is such a refreshing hopeful take on recovery and unwanted sexual behaviour! "Unwanted sexual behaviors are a roadmap to healing, not a life sentence to sexual shame or addiction. Unwanted sexual behaviors like the use of porn, extra-marital affairs and hook-ups are not random. Porn searches and sexual fantasies can be both shaped and predicted based on your life story." Dr. Stringer
Take the assessment to discover your path to freedom. SELF ASSESSMENT!
https://puredesire.org/ Take Back Your Life!
https://www.covenanteyes.com/ Well established accountability program, good help for parents and those trying to quit.
https://everaccountable.com/ scientifically backed accountability software.
https://www.joinfortify.com/ Science-based support for lasting healing from sexual compulsivity.
Quit porn for good: https://www.sathiyasam.com/. Author of the Last Relapse.
Christian program to help you quit https://thefreedomfight.org/about/our-approach/
Coach Frank Rich - Discover The 7 Steps To Quitting Porn For Good & Living The Life You Were Created To Live https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich/featured
Reboot Nation - a community of people who have discovered the negative effects of pornography. "If you or a loved one struggle with porn addiction and/or porn-induced sexual dysfunctions, we would love to welcome you to our community."
LEARN ABOUT ABOUT PORN & SEXUAL VIOLENCE
Book How Pornography Harms by Dr. John D. Foubert
Dr. John Foubert, Protecting Children from Internet Pornography, great book, I highly recommend. Written by a Christian author, researcher and advocate.
For all the hockey parents! Skating on Thin Ice - Professional Hockey, Rape Culture & Violence Against Women by Dr. Walter Dekeseredy, Stu Cowan & Martin D. Schwartz
Pornland. Dr Gail Dines. This is a HARD read! But if you want to know the truth about the porn industry Dr. Dines is the leading authority and researcher on this topic.
GOVERNMENT ADVOCACY:
In Canada:
https://defenddignity.ca/get-involved/#advocacy Stand with survivors & advocates by supporting policies that reduce sexual exploitation. Ask your MP to support Bill S210. Bill S-210 to require sites to verify that users are adults before accessing pornographic content. Right now any child/toddler can access hard core, body punishing porn within 2 clicks on ANY CONNECTED device! We owe it to our kids to change this immediate. You can also easily email your MP here within 2 clicks!
In the USA:
https://exoduscry.com/getinvolved/
The National Centre on Sexual Exploitation
VIDEO GAME HELP:
Boys Adrift - 5 Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men by Leonard Sax, MD. PhD.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=game+quitters
This is Your Kid's Brain on Video Games, Save the Kids Podcast.
SCHOOL CURRICULUM & TEACHING RESOURCES:
Ally Global Foundation and Exploitation Education Institute. https://www.thepreventionproject.ca/library
https://covenanthousetoronto.ca/traffick-stop/
Free porn critical sex education curriculum.
Value Driven Curriculum for Healthy & Safe Screen Use. Wired Human.