Parent & Educator Resources
BOOKS & ARTICLES:
PREVENTION:
"Diapers to Dating, Raising Sexually Healthy Children" Dr. Debra Haffner
"The Right Touch, A Read-Aloud Story to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse" Sandy Kleven (put this in the school library)
"I Said NO!" A kid-to-kid guide to keeping private parts private. Zack & Kimberly King
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures. Excellent book to read with kids about when they will see 'bad pictures'. Note the Jr. edition and kids edition.
PARENTING RESOURCES:
Parents Program by Culture Reframed, take this self paced online course to learn how to fight for your kids in this toxic pornified culture.
App Review by Protect Young Eyes. Before you let your kids get a new app on their phone, read these reviews by a Dad and tech guru.
Understanding Routers. Learn how to put parent control on your router!
Great articles and resources on the brain science behind porn, among other topics: Fight the New Drug
Let kids be kids longer. Join the resistance movement: WAIT UNTIL 8TH. No smart phones until at least grade 8 but most experts say 16! Start with a flip phone! We are doing the 18@18 Challenge! If our daughter doesn't put social media on her phone until 18, we will give her $1,800 on her 18th Bday! So far so good! She's 17 and a very cool, confident, active teen! She has IG on my phone so she can check it when she wants. She often forgets about it! She does not have SnapChat and she has lots of great friends! It can be done parents!!
I'm not here to tell adults what to do with their own screen time in their home. But, many have asked what our rules are so here you go. Adapt, copy, adjust as you see fit!
Here's our house screen rules.
How to set up parent controls on every digital device, by Protect Young Eyes.
Social Media and Mobile Phone Contract by Culture Reframed.
Dr. John Foubert, Protecting Children from Internet Pornography, great book, I highly recommend. Written from a Christian author, researcher and advocate.
I recommend ALL the books & interviews with Dr. Leonard Sax (pic below). This medical doctor and psychiatrist has been tracking social changes in boys and girls for the past 30 years! His insight and research findings are a MUST READ for all parents and educators! I had to own all four books immediately, and I'm highlighting like a mad woman! It changed my parenting style right away, especially for my son. Please buy these, gift them to new parents, every educator must read these before they go in the classroom (especially the gender one, it's not about what you think!)
Boys Adrift The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men
Girls on the Edge The Four Factors Driving the New Crisis for Girls
Why Gender Matters What Parents and Teachers Need to Know about the Emerging Science of Sex Differences
The Collapse of Parenting How We Hurt Our Children When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups
https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ good resource for parents and educators. Gives good reviews of games, books, movies, etc.
https://www.pluggedin.com/ faith based reviews of modern media, music, video games, books, etc.
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, Jonathan Haidt
Dr. Haidt's Under 5 Screen Recommendations:
- Under 18 months limit screen use to video chatting along with an adult (ie. with a parent/grandparent who is out of town
- 18 - 24 mo, limit screen time to watching educational porgramming with a caregiver
- 2 - 5 yrs, limit noneducational screen time to 1 hr/weekday and 3 hrs/weekend day (I personally find this too high!)
- Screens off at meals and outings
- Use parent controls
- Avoid using screens as pacifiers, babysitters or to stop tantrums.
- Turn off screens 1 hour before bedtime
- (from me) never in bedrooms or private places, no ear plugs
DOCUMENTARIES:
MAGIC LANTERN PICTURES: has made a couple of hard to watch but essential to watch documentaries, I'd recommend. Raised on Porn and what the porn culture is creating in their next documentary Liberated, The New Sexual Revolution. These are upsetting to watch but helpful to know this is what we are fighting against. Not for kids!
BRAIN, HEART, WORLD by Fight the New Drug. Very well done, 3 part documentaries following the journey of people struggling with porn.
Colin Kartchner, TED Talk
PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS:
Gail Dines (this is the global expert! Any of her interviews are highly informative. Especially after watching Liberated by Magic Lanterns listen to this commentary of the film and hook up culture)
The US Surgeon General's Dire Social Media Warning
Hey right now, it often feels like these are our kids in the middle by themselves! :( If you could decrease your child's screen time there would be more kids in the middle, playing, laughing, learning people and social skills, getting healthy and active, decreasing addictive behaviour, allowing their brains and bodies to grow and develop! Let's fight together to raise FUN ACTIVE PASSIONATE kids that will become healthy and engaged adults and parents!
HELP QUITTING PORN / HELPING KIDS WHO HAVE BEEN EXPOSED:
The Sex Talk You Never Got Sam Jolman (good healing book for parents, especially Dads)
DADS here's a powerful one. UNWANTED, How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, Jay Stringer
***From Therapist Jay Stringer:
"Unwanted sexual behaviors are a roadmap to healing, not a life sentence to sexual shame or addiction.
Unwanted sexual behaviors like the use of porn, extra-marital affairs and hook-ups are not random. Porn searches and sexual fantasies can be both shaped and predicted based on your life story.
Take the assessment to discover your path to freedom. SELF ASSESSMENT!
https://puredesire.org/ Take Back Your Life!
https://www.covenanteyes.com/ Well established accountability program, good help for parents and those trying to quit.
https://everaccountable.com/ scientifically backed accountability software.
https://www.joinfortify.com/ Science-based support for lasting healing from sexual compulsivity.
Quit porn for good: https://www.sathiyasam.com/. Author of the Last Relapse.
Christian program to help you quit https://thefreedomfight.org/about/our-approach/
Coach Frank Rich - Discover The 7 Steps To Quitting Porn For Good & Living The Life You Were Created To Live https://www.youtube.com/@CoachFrankRich/featured
LEARN ABOUT ABOUT PORN & SEXUAL VIOLENCE
Book How Pornography Harms by Dr. John D. Foubert
For all the hockey parents! Skating on Thin Ice - Professional Hockey, Rape Culture & Violence Against Women by Dr. Walter Dekeseredy, Stu Cowan & Martin D. Schwartz
GOVERNMENT ADVOCACY:
https://defenddignity.ca/get-involved/#advocacy Stand with survivors & advocates by supporting policies that reduce sexual exploitation. Ask your MP to support Bill S210. Bill S-210 to require sites to verify that users are adults before accessing pornographic content. Right now any child/toddler can access hard core, body punishing porn within 2 clicks on ANY CONNECTED device! We owe it to our kids to change this immediate. You can also easily email your MP here within 2 clicks!
VIDEO GAME HELP:
Boys Adrift - 5 Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men by Leonard Sax, MD. PhD.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=game+quitters
This is Your Kid's Brain on Video Games, Save the Kids Podcast.
SCHOOL CURRICULUM & TEACHING RESOURCES:
Ally Global Foundation and Exploitation Education Institute. https://www.thepreventionproject.ca/library
https://covenanthousetoronto.ca/traffick-stop/